生活点滴：暖男

今天回到家，情人老婆仔跟我说大瓜做的一件很暖心的事。

下午老婆仔到公寓的办公室办些事，办公室是在另一栋建筑物，建筑物之间是露天的。

然后下起大雨。

大瓜看妈咪出去了良久都还没有回家，知道她在办公室，便拿了雨伞过去给她。

小暖男！

孩子真的长大了哦，会替人着想了。

*开心*   ^_^

生活点滴 |系列|

心的频道：人品

你对人好，人家不一定就会对你好。

你关心人，人家不一定会关心你，甚至不一定要你关心。

不要为了对方会对你好回而去对人好。

不要为了想得到什么报酬回报的。

对人好，就因为那是对的行为，如此而已。

做人，要有自己的原则和风格。

要因为是对的而去做。

做人，要有品。

以下是面子书上看到的，觉得很有意义，所以借来分享：

人生

该说的要说 该哑的要哑

是一种聪明

该争的要争 该退的要退

是一种睿智

该显的要显 该藏的要藏

是一种境界

原稿于二零一八年十一月五日。

已是完整的文章，忘了为什么没有当时就上载。

猜想要么是因为十一月只上载四篇文章的缘故，要么就是当时时机不对，担心敏感的人会误会？

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有感而发：唉，还是被卷入了

二零一九年五月二十五日。

今天，又回去公司加工一整天。

只是做一个项目，都已够我忙了。

现在同时要做三个项目，只能说，我根本办不到。

如果要说这是我办事能力的不足，我也只好认了。

我已做了我的最好，甚至都默默加班了，我问心无愧。

倒真的想看看有谁那么强能应付，然后还可以有生活可言的。

但想记下的不是那些。

而是到了傍晚准备回家时，那突然涌入脑中的思维。

几天前的那个网上会议，让我看清了自己身陷的局面。

真是心机重的同事与经理，和充满办公室政治的一个部门。

超不想介入，但始终还是被卷入，深陷其中。

唉…

勾叉零蛋三角形！

真是的。

原本打算明天再加班的。

但刚才回家途中思索良久。

何必呢？

太多工作就是太多工作，不能总是靠牺牲自己的休息时间、私人时间的吧？

同事和上司要玩弄什么手段、什么办公室政治，那是他们的事。

我又何必为了他们各自的、没顾虑别人就随意承诺的如意算盘卖命呢？

我有我的理念，我有我的节奏。

此时的我，就是叛逆！

有感而发 |系列|

When things aligned

I shifted my working hours to avoid the traffic, because I am allergic to traffic jam.

The angry bird within will unleash itself when I am stuck in a traffic.

Actually, probably due more to the other road users behaviour, which is a major factor of the congestion,  than the bad traffic.

But anyway, idiotic driver is one of my pet peeves.

Those who don't use their indication signal when changing lanes or turning, those who drive recklessly endangering other road users, those who cannot stay centred in their lane, those who insist on driving on the fast lane at turtle speed, those who use their phone while driving (hence reckless, turtle speed, lane drift, et cetera), those selfish bastards who cut queue and hence blocked other lane and caused more congestion, all these and probably some more that I cannot remember now, are idiotic drivers who really shouldn't be driving.

It's a known phenomenon that when there is a slow down, for whatever reason for example to avoid a reckless driver, to avoid a lane drifter, to avoid that jerk trying to cut queue, will lead to a traffic standstill down the line in a chain effect.

So yea, all those I listed as idiotic drivers above, no thanks for causing bad traffic for everyone!

*Deep breath*

Okay, let's not turn this into a rant. =P

I actually got home in record time today. ^_^

The green lights were aligned except at one traffic light, and for the 18km distance that took me only 25 minutes today, I only met four idiotic drivers, that's like, very lucky!

Way too many of them around, what a shame.

Other |temperamental thoughts| category entries.

就是走

这个月给自己的挑战是每周至少做一百五十分钟的运动。

不算我几年前开始就没停过的每日锻炼在内（因为不适合用时间计算，我是用数量），我选择了最简单的走。

就是走。

不必什么特别的场地、器材、用具，就是一双适合走路的鞋，和坚持出去走的执念。

第一周我尝试跑，结果才十分钟就气喘如牛，肌肉也给我痛了几天。

算了，我就乖乖的走就是了。

可以的话我都会快步走，但如果是刚吃饱我就慢走，当作餐后散步。

或许身体状况好点才再看看能不能慢跑啦。

其实还真的比较喜欢快走，觉得对关节没那么伤。

今天走着走着就走了好远，回家查了查地图才知道来回我走了超过十公里。

哎哟，不错哦！

我想下个周末我就走另一个方向，五公里范围有好多地方可以去。

周末走个十公里，周日可以的话至少要有一天走近点的来回三或四公里左右，然后其他天就晚餐后和情人老婆仔到楼下散散步。

希望可以变得健康点啦！

随兴随想 |系列|

空出时间见见朋友

以前看过，最近又看到，类似以下的这段句子：

“要学会分辨那些有空时找你聊天，和空出时间和你聊天的人。”

是的，是有很重要的区别的。

当然不是在说有空时找你聊天的人不好，不要误会。

有空时会想起你问问候、聊聊天的，是心里有你的朋友。

要珍惜。

而那些会空出时间来和你聊天的人，特别是在他或她很忙碌的时段，是更加应该珍惜的朋友。

纠结了许久后，我终于决定放下繁忙的工作，用我两天半上下班的车程时间，跑到遥远的郊外（以前工作的地方啦…），做那个空出时间去见见朋友的人。

当然，相对的那些朋友也很有义气的空出些时间来聚一聚。

这班一起玩笑娱乐的男女神经果然够交情!

很开心见了见他们，很好的感觉。

为此牺牲晚间的休息时间来弥补失去的工作时间是值得的。

随兴随想 |系列|

Made my day

Today is a good day.

Because mommi remembers me. =)

Gave pappi a call after my long morning walk.

He knew I called to greet mommi a happy Mother's Day, so he handed the phone to her.

And mommi knew who I am, and was responsive today.

She even cracked joke saying she was just napping because she was lazy. =)

That made my day.

Guess this is one of her good days.

I remember a few months back when I was there beside her, face to face, holding her hand, yet she couldn't recognise me. I was just a stranger to her.

The sense of lost, helplessness, and depression.

I understand that it can only be worse for her, who suffers from Alzheimer's disease. Must be downright terrifying.

Nothing we can do about it, it only gets worse, is what I have been told.

But today is a good day, for she remembered me, and we talked.

Gotta cherish all these moments as we get them, and count them as blessings.

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A year ago, we did it!

A year ago, the Rakyat banded together and fired the government.

Boy, that was wonderful!

Historical event.

I hope I get to tell my grandchildren, or grandchild, preferably a granddaughter who adores me (okay, maybe that's asking too much...), that I did my part in 2018 to give you a better country, a better future.

Many uncertainties there.

I may not live long enough to see my grandchildren. I may not have any grandchild. The new ruling party may end up equally bad.

And most importantly, my granddaughter, who I may not even have, may not adore me. Da bummer! =P

Politics, not my cup of tea regardless of where, be it nation or office or wherever.

Just... dark, nasty, evil.

The rakyat had definitely voted out the greater evil last year, but is the lesser evil any better?

Yea, to me, they are all evil, just different level and shade of evil.

I said it and will say this again, mighty glad to be proven wrong.

Go ahead, prove me wrong.

Probably too soon to judge the new government, they may not have enough time to show their true colour yet, be it good or evil.

But kicking out the old ruling party was a no-brainer, no regret, much rejoicing.

We did it!

So please remember that, if need be, we can do it again.

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小人物小梦想

没什么野心，工作就为了赚钱养家过活，如此而已。

绝对不是工作狂！超抗拒的。

我可是为我闲懒达人的名誉很沾沾自喜的哦。

什么成就、什么名誉、那些什么什么的，不重要。

有的话好呀，没的话不强求。

就真的想要简单的生活、身心健康快乐就够了。

当然是认真工作，做到自己的最好，尽责尽职。

这是对自己做人的原则和信仰的交代。

我是有原则的人，我忠于我的原则。

那些办公室的政治、小手段、什么什么的，拜托别来烦我。

有些人可以靠手段或把戏得过且过，或攀上高职什么，那是它们的“厉害”。

但绝对不是我要的。

只能说每个人有自己良心和道德的准则。

也或许有些人完全没有，嗯…

这世界本来就很恐怖，因为人。

唔，好像越写越离题。

呵呵！回来回来！

钱，当然越多越好。

可以不愁钱的话就可以花更多时间做自己喜欢的事。

不然只好认命每天准时上下班，幸运的话啦…

不幸的话不是只好加班，周末也做工，根本没有了生活那样咯。

打工仔就是这样的咯。

哇噻！我怎么可以写了这么多都还没有写到一开始时想写的东西啊？

哈哈哈！ =P

这几个星期一直有美国的、同部门的同事老板们来访。

有大咖和大大咖，每个星期都有。

我这小咖也不清不楚和几位开会了几次。

真的不懂他们怎么会知道我这小咖，和为什么会要和我单独面会的？

这个星期还有一个大大咖要单独面会，差了天和地的等级的大大咖，还真的有点小紧张。

我想说的是（万岁！终于写到了！），太多会议了啦！

已经忙到～ 了，现在还来这些额外的会议。

有的还要准备资料呈现报告什么的。

都讲已经忙到～ 了，还增加工作给我做么啦！

真的，我这样的小人物，没什么需要面会的。

让我去做我的工作啦。

真的很希望换了部门可以不再做「开会工程师」的咯…

整天开会，哪有时间做工哦？

随兴随想 |系列|

Still don't understand

Before I get to the main point, which happened to me a few days ago, I have to start with some other real life examples.

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Manager: "CK, I know you don't like to travel, but there's a US trip coming up."

Me: "Oh? What's the purpose and when?"

Manager: "For product name and after Raya."

Me: "Okay, after Raya is okay. I can't do Raya holiday as I have a wedding to attend."

Manager: "Okay, we will go through this closer to the travel date."

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Colleague: "Can we discuss the next step for product name?"

Me: "Sure, but it's already late today, let's do it after lunch tomorrow."

Colleague: "Okay."

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Me: "When are we going to Tesco for our grocery?"

Wifey: "After kids' wushu practice."

Me: "Okay."

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Three different conversations involving question of time, all perfectly comprehended for the parties involved.

I hope you also understand, because honestly, I don't see what's not clear in those conversations, or how someone could not understand it.

Now the main story...

So hor, a few days ago I was asked again by a friend about when I could go watch Avengers: Endgame because he was itching to discuss and he knew my wrath about spoilers. =P

Of course he could have just discussed it in his many WhatsApp groups that I am not a part of but I am sure he has his reason...

Anyway, so he asked, again: "So CK when can you watch?"

And I answered, again, since I already answered the same question before: "Karen said after kids' exam."

Yea, I don't make the call, wifey makes the call and she said after kids' exam and that's that.

Then, the friend said: "I know you said after kids' exam but my question is when la, you don't understand my question also."

...

You asked when, I told you when, what's the misunderstanding?

Guess I really don't understand what I don't understand.

Or, it's just him.

Other |temperamental thoughts| category entries.

Random behaviour for May 2019

I started going for a long brisk walk every weekend in March, without fail, so I succeeded in my March's resolution. feel good +1

Then I had a ridiculously busy April that I pretty much did overtime everyday, including many of the weekends.

Simply crazy.

Lost many slacker points that month, *sigh*...

Anyway I didn't set any impromptu resolution in April, since I didn't even had time to use the toilet leisurely most days.

My lack of fitness bothers me though, and I heard from two different sources, one's a doctor, about the recommended minimum exercise time.

So, for May 2019, starting this Sunday even though I already started doing it, just so I get a complete week, my impromptu resolution is: to do at least 150 minutes of casual exercise, or 75 minutes of intensive exercise, every week.

Because I can.

Other |flickering fling| category entries.